Swinging’s getting more popular across the UK. More people are exploring open relationships, throuples, and the swinging lifestyle.
But finding the right kind of fun – especially if you’re new to it, or new to the area – can feel a bit tricky.
And let’s be honest, no one wants to end up in the wrong place with the wrong crowd.
The good news? There are easy ways to meet UK swingers near you, without all the awkwardness.
Start Online – It’s Where Most UK Swingers Begin
If you’re wondering where to meet UK swingers near you, the easiest place to start is online. It’s low-pressure, private, and lets you chat before meeting.
Most people aren’t walking into a club on their first night. They’re signing up to a site, scrolling, messaging, and seeing who’s around.
GroupFun.com is a good shout if you’re after a UK-based platform with real people who are actually up for meeting. Other well-known sites like FabSwingers are also popular – just be ready to dig through a few time-wasters.
Look for profiles with clear info and recent photos. If someone’s upfront about what they want, that’s usually a good sign.
Know What You’re Looking For
Before you start sending messages or planning nights out, get clear on what you actually want.
Are you looking for a one-off meet? A regular couple? Maybe you’re part of a throuple and want to meet others like you? If so, search across the sites (often for free) to see if you can find swingers near you. Basically, see what’s in your area on the app. Again, there are the time wasters, but this is a great way to gauge the app.
Know exactly what you want in terms of open relationships. Maybe you want to meet throuples in the UK, for example, which isn’t the same as swingers. The polyamory sector is a diverse group of people looking for differing things.
Be honest in your profile. Say what you’re curious about, what your limits are, and the kind of vibe you’re after. You don’t need to overshare — just give people enough to know you’re real and respectful.
Go Where the Vibe’s Right
Once you’ve chatted a bit online, you might feel ready to meet up. That’s where clubs come in, but picking the right one matters.
Some clubs are more relaxed and social. Others are full-on play spaces. If you’re in London, Le Boudoir and Hellfire are two of the most well-known clubs for UK swingers. They’re different, but both have good reputations.
If you’re outside London, check local listings or forums on GroupFun. Clubs up north, in the Midlands, and along the coast all have their own vibe. You’ll find some are couples-only, while others welcome singles and groups.
The main thing is to read the rules, dress right, and show respect. Don’t treat it like a free-for-all. Swinger clubs in the UK work best when everyone plays by the same code: Consent, kindness, and no pressure.
Don’t Skip the Socials
Not every swinger meet-up happens in a club. There are socials too; pub nights, private house parties, and casual events where the focus is more on chatting than jumping into bed.
These are great if you’re nervous or just want to see what the scene feels like without the pressure. You can get to know people in a low-key setting. And if there’s chemistry, you can take things further later. This is really helpful for those who may feel a little uneasy in their first few adventures into polyamory.
And here’s a tip: showing up just to look around isn’t a good move. Even at socials, people can tell if you’re not serious. Be polite, have a chat, and remember — no one owes anyone anything.
Charles Lace is a distinguished UK-based writer, born in 1975 in Brighton, who has become a prominent voice in the open relationship and swinger communities. His passion for exploring and documenting alternative lifestyles, particularly in the UK, has made him a well-known figure in these circles.
After studying Creative Writing at the University of East Anglia, Lace began his career as a freelance journalist for London newspapers. In his late 20s, he found his niche writing about non-monogamous relationships and the swinger lifestyle. His breakthrough came in 2005 with the publication of “Open Hearts, Open Doors: An Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy,” which became an unexpected bestseller in its niche.
Known for his frank yet sensitive approach, Lace’s writing style combines personal anecdotes with well-researched information and expert interviews. He regularly contributes to various swinger publications, most notably through his column in “Lifestyle Horizons,” a popular UK-based magazine for the swinger and polyamorous communities.