The 2025 Guide to the World’s Best Swinger Resorts and Retreats

Dating and relationships are shifting – not just here in the UK, but across the globe. What used to be a fairly standard traditional script has grown into something far more modern, fluid, and inclusive. And like you, we’re pretty darn excited about that.

With that, there’s been a noticeable rise in interest around open relationships and swinging – and not just behind closed doors.

Back home, London has blossomed into a vibrant scene for those exploring ethical non-monogamy. The city’s diverse swinger dating community offers endless possibilities, from intimate meet-ups to full-blown events like these.

But let’s be honest – even the most connected couples need a holiday. And when it comes to planning a getaway as a swinger or open relationship group, it can be a bit of a minefield.

Do you fancy a sunny beach or something tucked away and tranquil? A cosmopolitan city break or an all-inclusive retreat where the dress code is…say…. optional?

To make things easier, we’ve put together the definitive 2025 guide to the top swinger and polyamory-friendly resorts around the world. These are the places where you can unwind, connect, and explore – all while staying true to your lifestyle. If you’d like to go straight to the guide, jump here.

How to Pick the Right Swinger Resort for You

Before we jet off to the world’s hottest swinger spots, let’s talk planning. The truth is, not every resort suits every couple – or throuple, or group – and finding the right fit can be the difference between a cheeky escape and a full-on unforgettable adventure. We know some of you hold a disdain for planning. That’s totally OK. We’ll make this as pain-free as possible.

Here are a few things worth mulling over before you hit “book now”:

Vibe check

First things first – what sort of atmosphere are you after?

Some resorts lean into high-end luxury, where spa days and candlelit dinners set the tone. Others are all about the party, with poolside DJs, sexy games, and theme nights that leave little to the imagination. Then there are the more low-key getaways – quieter retreats tucked into the hills or hidden behind the dunes, ideal for recharging and reconnecting.

Listen, the vibe means everything.

Inclusivity matters

It’s not just about the location – it’s about who you’ll find there. Some spots stick with traditional swinger norms and cater mostly to heterosexual couples. Others are beautifully inclusive, welcoming LGBTQ+ guests, solo adventurers, and polycules with open arms.

DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS!

If diversity and comfort are important to you (and they should be), keep an eye on the resort’s messaging and guest reviews. Assuming that a swinger resort is inclusive just because it’s polyamorous can land you in a regretful stay.

Get into the theme of it

Themed nights and events can really make a holiday. Whether you’re into masquerade balls, glow parties, or something a bit kinkier – like a dungeon night or latex soirée – the right itinerary can be the cherry on top of your experience.

Some places even offer educational workshops around relationships, intimacy, or consent – which can be as empowering as they are sexy.

Privacy vs. play

How much socialising do you actually want? Some resorts are buzzing hubs, with open playrooms and constant mingling. Others give you space – private villas, quieter zones, and no pressure to join in unless you’re in the mood. Knowing your comfort level in advance can help you steer clear of awkward moments and dive right into what feels good.

Also, how private are you and yours? If you’re a swinger couple that tends to conceal your play, you might make sure the resort isn’t one that highlights every ongoing on social media.

Top Party Swinger Resorts for 2025

These resorts are buzzing with energy – ideal for couples (and groups) who want to turn the heat up, let their hair down, and dive into a full-on social scene.

Hedonism II – Negril, Jamaica

You probably didn’t need to guess what would be the lead here.

A world-famous, adults-only resort where the party runs 24/7. It’s known throughout the world as a top resort for adult play.

With nude and clothing-optional beaches, foam-filled nights, and themed parties that go all out, Hedonism II is perfect for those who live (and love) out loud. The vibe is equal parts sexy and silly, with everything from kink-friendly events to beachside dancing.

Our friends at TheSwingNation explain and take you on a tour, highlighting the incredible vastness of this swinger land. They showcase everything from the front desk and concierge services to the various dining options, bars, entertainment, recreational areas including the nude pool and clothing-optional pools, the spa, beaches, water sports, the nightclub, and even a cannabis dispensary and playroom!

Temptation Cancun Resort – Cancún, Mexico

This one’s all about cheeky fun with a tropical twist. Temptation’s topless-optional areas, bold design, and vibrant party schedule make it a favourite among sociable couples. Expect poolside games, live entertainment, and just enough mischief to keep things spicy – all while enjoying sleek, modern rooms and inclusive dining.

The energy here is electric – often described as an “adult playground” where the party genuinely never stops. While it has roots in the swinger lifestyle, the guest mix these days is broad, attracting everything from lifestyle couples to lively stag and hen parties. That said, those seeking like-minded connections will still find their tribe.

At the heart of it all is the sexy pool – a camera-free zone where guests are encouraged to fully live in the moment. With resident DJs, top-tier bartenders, and a saucy activity team running games and flirt-forward events all day long, it’s where the buzz lives. If you’re after a breather, there’s also a quieter pool with a more laid-back vibe.

Dining won’t disappoint either – from à la carte restaurants to poolside snacks, and even food on offer during the resort’s raucous late-night parties. The nightly themes are a proper highlight, with everyone donning their most daring outfits for an evening of dancing and connection. The atmosphere throughout is completely judgement-free, giving guests space to be as bold (or chilled) as they fancy.

The resort itself is clean and well-kept. Standard rooms are straightforward but spotless – and for those wanting a bit of extra comfort, upgraded suites are available. You might be approached about a timeshare pitch – it’s not too aggressive, and it does come with a few perks for those who bite. All in all, Temptation is spot on for open-minded travellers looking for a full-throttle, unforgettable holiday.

Secrets Hideaway – Kissimmee, Florida

If you like your holidays with a side of fantasy, Secrets Hideaway delivers. Themed nights include everything from leather to glow-in-the-dark, and the resort features playrooms, a massive on-site dungeon, and a 25-person bed (yes, really). There’s also a buzzing pool scene during the day and DJs spinning well into the night.

And let’s not understate that cray cray, hyper-electic dance floor…

Luxury Swinger Resorts and Romantic Open Relationship Retreats

Not every open-minded getaway needs to be wild from sunrise to sunset. We all need some chill at times.

Some of the best swinger and poly-friendly holidays are wrapped in luxury – think beachfront suites, candlelit dinners, and serene moments in the spa before a cheeky evening out. These resorts balance sensuality with sophistication, offering a more curated, elegant take on lifestyle travel.

Desire Riviera Maya Pearl – Cancún, Mexico

A jewel in the Caribbean lifestyle scene, Desire Pearl delivers an adults-only, clothing-optional experience that’s both indulgent and deeply respectful. Known for its attentive staff, elegant rooms, and strong focus on consent, the resort draws couples looking for a sensual holiday with a touch of class. Days are spent soaking in the Jacuzzi or lounging on the beach, while evenings heat up with themed parties that are more intimate than outrageous.

The vibe here is all about connection – not chaos. You’ll find luxury spa treatments, gourmet dining options, and a community that values communication as much as chemistry. It’s ideal for couples who want an upscale environment to explore their boundaries.

There are a few things to keep in mind here.

The Good Bits

You’ll enjoy all-inclusive drinks from numerous bars, including a great coffee bar, and a stocked mini-bar in your room. Dining is diverse, with a daily buffet, pop-up options, and specialty restaurants like Japanese, romantic, and the newer Greek and Mexican eateries. The staff are truly wonderful, offering incredibly personalised service and making you feel like family. The friendly atmosphere is a real highlight, encouraging interaction among guests and staff, helped by a no-phone policy in common areas. Expect top-notch safety and security, beautiful, well-maintained grounds, and a splendid climate.

Things to Consider

Be aware that taxi fares from the resort aren’t pre-negotiated, so you might pay more. Pool towel availability can be a bit tricky, and the system for dinner reservations (requiring an in-person visit at noon) can be inconvenient. Due to ongoing renovations, the resort’s layout feels a bit spread out, which might impact service speed.

Recent Upgrades

Desire Riviera Maya has seen some great improvements. There are two new restaurants (Greek and Mexican), a larger pool with a swim-up bar and ocean views, and a spacious new jacuzzi. You’ll find a brand new lobby and bar, plus a new shop and an upcoming disco. The resort also boasts a new VIP Eden area with swim-up suites and updated Spanish Coastal decor throughout. The entertainment area is now larger, and the old pool area is much quieter.

Packing & Travel Tips

For men, remember trousers and closed-toe shoes for dinner, plus casual wear, swim trunks, and gym gear. Ladies, pack theme night outfits, gym shoes, beach and resort casuals, sunscreen, and maybe your preferred toiletries.

Flights are independent, but for airport transfers, the resort recommends USA Transfers or Aventura; booking in advance is best. Taxis from the airport are more expensive, and Uber isn’t available. Consider staying near the airport your first night if you have a long travel day.

Finally, late-night food is available, but watch out for raccoons and coatis! The beach at the resort isn’t world-class due to potential seagrass and tide variations, though great beaches are nearby. The resort is in a remote jungle area, so there’s nothing within walking distance.

Coqui Coqui Coba – Coba, Mexico

This one isn’t your typical swinger resort – and that’s what makes it special.

Set deep in the Yucatán jungle, Coqui Coqui Coba is a boutique luxury escape that leans into sensuality and romance over parties and playrooms. With hammocks and swings inside the rooms, open-air baths, and Mayan-inspired decor, it’s made for couples and poly groups seeking deep connection in a breathtakingly tranquil setting.

Check this short tour out:

It’s not marketed as a swinger destination, but its open-minded philosophy and privacy-first design make it ideal for those who prefer intimate, personal experiences far from the crowd.

Almar Resort – Puerto Vallarta, Mexico

Located in the heart of the city’s vibrant Zona Romántica, Almar is a luxury LGBTQ+ resort that beautifully blends high-end comfort with inclusive, playful energy. While it’s not strictly a lifestyle resort, it draws a large queer and poly-friendly crowd who value open expression, shared experiences, and a warm social atmosphere.

Expect plush rooms, an on-site beach club, and a rooftop bar perfect for mingling under the stars. Whether you’re a couple or a polycule, this is a place where you can relax, connect, and celebrate being yourself – in style.

Speaking of the rooms, for those of you who passed over the above review video…

Europe’s Finest Swinger Resorts and Lifestyle Escapes

Fancy something steamy without the jet lag? Many of you are a train away from lots of fun.

Europe is home to some of the most diverse, welcoming, and exciting swinger-friendly destinations – and many are just a short flight from the UK. Whether you want a party under the Spanish sun or a nude-friendly village in France, you’re spoiled for choice on the continent.

Spice Lifestyle Resort – Lanzarote, Canary Islands

Spice is a well-loved, adults-only retreat that’s a magnet for open-minded couples from across Europe. Tucked away in Lanzarote, it’s known for its inclusive attitude, relaxed vibe, and a giant 50-person whirlpool that’s the centrepiece of the resort. Days are easy-going – sunbathing, lounging, meeting new people – but come evening, things turn up a notch with themed events and playful extras like erotic photoshoots.

The resort is small enough to feel personal but big enough to give you options – whether you’re after intimacy or adventure. It’s also one of the more openly poly-friendly resorts in the region, offering a warm welcome to groups and diverse relationship structures.

Travel from London: Around 4.5 hours by direct flight from Gatwick, Luton or Stansted to Lanzarote (Arrecife Airport).

Getting there: Taxi from the airport to the resort takes about 10–15 minutes.

Cap d’Agde – Occitanie, France

Dubbed the “naked city,” Cap d’Agde is more than just a resort – it’s an entire town built around naturism and sexual freedom. By day, stroll nude along the beach or explore the many open-air cafés and shops. By night, the place transforms, with an array of swinger clubs, parties, and adult-themed events happening throughout the summer season.

There’s no one set resort to stay in – it’s more of a pick-your-own-adventure. Whether you want a private apartment or a room in a lively hotel near the nightlife, Cap d’Agde is a must-visit for anyone exploring the lifestyle in Europe.

Travel from London: About 1 hour 45 minutes by flight to Béziers or Montpellier.

Getting there: From Béziers Cap d’Agde Airport, it’s a 20-minute taxi ride. From Montpellier, you can take a train or taxi (about 1.5 hours total travel).

Gran Canaria – Canary Islands, Spain

Gran Canaria has quietly built a reputation as one of Europe’s top swinger and fetish-friendly spots. The island’s southern region, particularly around Maspalomas and Playa del Inglés, hosts an active nightlife scene, with clubs, cruising areas, and the annual Fetish Pride drawing an international crowd.

The Cita Centre is the unofficial epicentre for all things alternative, and while it’s particularly popular with gay men, the island overall is incredibly welcoming to swinger couples and poly groups. You’ll find clothing-optional resorts, adult-only pools, and plenty of spaces to explore both socially and intimately.

Travel from London: Around 4.5 hours by direct flight from most London airports to Gran Canaria Airport (LPA).

Getting there: Take a taxi or shuttle to Playa del Inglés or Maspalomas – roughly 25–30 minutes by car.

Vera Playa Club Hotel – Andalusia, Spain

This beachfront naturist hotel in southern Spain is a laid-back, sun-soaked escape that’s been embraced by the swinger community. It’s not as overt as some other destinations – think more naturist-friendly than lifestyle-specific – but there’s a quiet buzz among regulars who know where to go nearby.

With easy access to a couple of well-known swinger clubs just outside the hotel, Vera Playa is a great pick for couples aged 40 and up who want something a bit slower-paced, but still friendly to alternative lifestyles.

Travel from London: About 2.5 hours by direct flight to Almería (from Gatwick) or 3 hours to Alicante (more frequent options).

Getting there: From Almería, it’s just over an hour’s drive. From Alicante, plan for about 2 hours by car or coach.

Poly & Queer-Friendly Swinger Retreats

If your ideal holiday is less about all-night antics and more about deeper connections, these retreats offer something a bit different. Whether you’re part of a polycule, in an open relationship, or exploring love outside the mainstream, these places prioritise openness, communication, and community.

BookRetreats.com – Polyamory Retreats (Global)

BookRetreats curates polyamory-friendly wellness and relationship retreats around the world – often blending yoga, tantra, group work, and guided communication sessions. It’s perfect if you’re after a personal-growth style holiday with like-minded people.

• Popular European options include Portugal, Greece, and Spain –
  around 2 to 3 hours from London by air.

Radical Faerie Gatherings – Global (UK and Europe included)

Radical Faerie events are all about community and freedom – part retreat, part celebration, always inclusive. They often take place in forests, fields, or countryside communes, welcoming queer folk, polyamorous people, and spiritual seekers.

• UK & European gatherings happen regularly –
  from London, travel typically involves train and local taxi or rideshare.
  Locations include rural England, southern France, and parts of Germany.

Axel Hotels – Barcelona, Berlin, Madrid

Axel isn’t a swinger brand, but it draws a stylish, open-minded crowd. These LGBTQ+ hotels are ideal for queer couples or poly groups after a chic city stay with a flirt-friendly atmosphere. Rooms are sleek, the bars are lively, and the vibe is proudly inclusive.

• From London:
  • Barcelona – 2 hrs 10 mins
  • Berlin – 1 hr 50 mins
  • Madrid – 2 hrs 30 mins
• Each city offers smooth airport connections by metro or taxi.

The Island House – Key West, Florida, USA

An all-male, clothing-optional resort known for being both luxurious and liberating. There’s a spa, pool, café, and a tight-knit vibe perfect for open gay couples. It’s not in Europe, but worth a mention for long-haul travellers with sunshine on their mind.

Swinger Resort FAQs

Whether you’re planning your first trip or you’re a seasoned traveller looking for new spots, these frequently asked questions should help clear up the basics and maybe ease a few nerves too.

Do you have to be a swinger to go to a swinger resort?

Not at all. While many guests are swingers, plenty of couples go simply for the open-minded atmosphere, social fun, or clothing-optional freedom. You’ll find people across the spectrum – from curious to committed. As long as you’re respectful, you’re welcome.

Is everyone expected to participate in group activities?

Absolutely not. Consent is key in every corner of the lifestyle scene. You’re never expected to join anything you’re not comfortable with – whether it’s a themed night or something a bit more intimate. Most resorts even have designated quiet zones or chill-out areas for when you just fancy some peace.

Can single people go to swinger resorts?

Some resorts do allow singles, while others are strictly for couples. It really depends on the venue. A few places are open to solo women but more selective with solo men to maintain balance. Always check the resort’s policy beforehand.

What should I pack for a swinger resort holiday?

Think swimwear, sun cream, and your most playful theme night outfits. Many resorts have costume nights – from glow parties to masquerades – so bring a few extras if you want to join in. And don’t forget comfortable shoes for dancing, plus whatever helps you feel confident and sexy.

Are these resorts LGBTQ+ friendly?

Many are – though some are more inclusive than others. Resorts like Almar, Axel, and The Island House have a strong LGBTQ+ presence, while traditional swinger resorts vary. It’s always best to read reviews and check the resort’s inclusivity statement if that’s a priority.

How do you meet people at a swinger resort?

It’s easier than you think. Most resorts have daily mixers, pool parties, or dinners designed to get people chatting. Some even offer colour-coded wristbands to signal what you’re into (or not into), which can take the awkwardness out of starting a conversation.

Is privacy respected?

Yes – and it’s taken seriously. Many resorts have no-camera policies in certain areas, and playrooms or private spaces often come with clear etiquette. You’re always in control of your experience, and boundaries are expected to be respected by everyone.

Do I have to be nude?

Only if you want to be. Most resorts are clothing-optional rather than fully nude. That means you can keep your kit on at the pool or bare all – totally your choice. Some events or spaces may be nudity-required, but it’s never a blanket rule unless you’re in a naturist resort like Vera Playa or Cap d’Agde.