In today’s social media-driven world, photo filters are everywhere. Nowhere is this more noticeable than in the world of dating. Apps like Tinder are notorious for users applying filters to make themselves appear younger or with fewer; or even no, blemishes.
There’s a lot to unpack here.
First, let’s start with the science. A new study in the Canadian Journal of Behavioural Science reports that people are more attracted to others who use subtle photo filters or corrections, but are largely unaffected by bigger, more obvious changes. In other words, small edits can be beneficial, but going overboard doesn’t help.
Dating apps are often fast-paced, particularly with platforms like Tinder, where just a few seconds can make the difference between a potential long-term connection and being forgotten. On our site, things move a bit slower; but first impressions still matter. It’s natural to want to present your best self, much like an actor providing a headshot to a casting director.
That said, we’re not suggesting you should edit your photos. We just want to highlight that there might be a balance to strike. We always recommend using a good photo of yourself; one where you’re smiling and in flattering light. Sure, when you meet someone in person, you might not have that perfect evening glow, but that’s understandable.
However, heavy filtering can create an environment of distrust. When filters are excessive and obvious, it can leave others feeling that the person isn’t genuine. That’s not the best way to attract a partner or make connections, whether you’re looking for something serious or just some fun with fellow swingers.
So, what should you do to boost your attractiveness in your profile photo?
Once again, smiling is key. A smile disarms others and creates a positive impression, suggesting you’re someone fun, approachable, and full of positive energy.
Choosing a high-quality image is essential. A clear, well-lit photo conveys that you’ve put thought into your profile. Blurry or pixelated images often come across as careless, which could harm that crucial first impression.
Lighting plays a huge role in the quality of your photo. Natural light is always best, especially during the golden hour; right after sunrise or before sunset—when the light is soft and flattering. If you’re taking pictures indoors, make sure there’s plenty of light to avoid harsh shadows.
Consider including a photo that shows you enjoying one of your hobbies. Whether it’s cooking, hiking, or playing a musical instrument, this gives potential matches a glimpse of your personality and interests, making it easier for them to start a conversation with you.
What you wear in your photos also matters. Dressing in something you feel both comfortable and confident in can make a real difference in how you come across. Comfortable clothing will help you relax, while confidence will shine through in your expression. Just avoid anything overly distracting; the goal is for the focus to be on you.
While headshots are great, it’s also a good idea to include a variety of pictures, including a full-body shot. This helps people get a fuller picture of who you are and makes your profile feel more authentic.
If you’re thinking of including group photos, remember they can be confusing. People might not be able to tell which one is you. If you do use a group picture, make sure it’s not your main photo and that it’s obvious who you are in the image.
It’s also best to avoid using too many props, like sunglasses or drinks in every picture. While these can add some personality, they shouldn’t be in every shot. Having at least one clear photo where your face and eyes are fully visible helps build trust with potential matches.
And perhaps one of the most important points; make sure your photos are recent. Ideally, they should be taken within the last year. Nothing leads to more awkwardness than a profile photo that no longer resembles the real you. Keeping it recent helps ensure that your profile is a true representation of who someone will meet in person.
Charles Lace is a distinguished UK-based writer, born in 1975 in Brighton, who has become a prominent voice in the open relationship and swinger communities. His passion for exploring and documenting alternative lifestyles, particularly in the UK, has made him a well-known figure in these circles.
After studying Creative Writing at the University of East Anglia, Lace began his career as a freelance journalist for London newspapers. In his late 20s, he found his niche writing about non-monogamous relationships and the swinger lifestyle. His breakthrough came in 2005 with the publication of “Open Hearts, Open Doors: An Introduction to Ethical Non-Monogamy,” which became an unexpected bestseller in its niche.
Known for his frank yet sensitive approach, Lace’s writing style combines personal anecdotes with well-researched information and expert interviews. He regularly contributes to various swinger publications, most notably through his column in “Lifestyle Horizons,” a popular UK-based magazine for the swinger and polyamorous communities.